My sister said we should “sacrifice everything to marriage—and that this is Biblical.”

Do you agree?

Sounds like a woman’s perspective to me.

She also said, relating to perspective during troubling times, “I think about when I yell at the kids and then imagine, god forbid, if someone dies soon after, and how would I feel? Was it necessary or just nitpicking?”

As an EMS pilot and former combat pilot, I promise that I have thought more about death and regrets than any non-pilot.

Here’s what I think.

I want to live a life that demonstrates to any who knew me—family, friends, co-workers—that they knew a (Pinocchio voice) real boy. I am not a sheep, I am not a drone, I am not a robot.

Did you get offended by me?

-That’s not my problem.

Did you disagree with me?

-You would, because you’ve never even considered the issue.

Did my personality rub you wrong?

-Well, what did you expect from a person? And where did you ever get the idea that people “get along”?

On the topic of marriage, no. No to both. The Bible never says sacrifice all (here read the practical parts of life: financial stability, children’s care, friendships, truth, fact-based systematic reasoning) for marriage. But more, and I know the full scope of what I am suggesting here, the Bible never even gives a portrait of a desirable marriage.

Exhibit A: No woman on Earth in 2025 wants to be ruled by her husband, as scripture suggests is the design of the hierarchy.

Exhibit B: Adam and Eve

Exhibit C: Moses’ marriages. Abraham’s marriage. In fact, all OT marriages.

Exhibit D: Jesus was single. Paul was single. And there is really no part of any NT letter or Gospel which highlights some marriage.

(I am suggesting my sister’s understanding is untenable, not that the Bible is invalid or uninspired etc.)

What to do?

For starters, finish the post. Then file the advice away in the archives under “probably not worth contemplating further” and get on with life.